Okay, I know I'm writing this at 10AM but this actually happened at 3:30AM. We had someone pounding on the door. I thought it was my imagination at first but the realized I heard it for real. I went downstairs and peeked out the window and door and didn't see anyone. I poked my head out and it turns out it was a friend of my brother's. He said he'd gotten his car towed and he had a cab and was wondering if my brother would take him home so he didn't have to pay more cab fare.

Turns out dude got himself a DUI. Again. This time, they impounded his car. He's had a ridiculous amount of DUI's over the last year I guess and this may be the icing on the cake for him. My brother says he might get prison time for this one. He told him that he had a cab and that it was rude and inconsiderate for him to stop by here, freaking him and his sister out, at 3:30AM just to save a few bucks. He made his bed and and he needs to suck it up and lay in it. I guess he also told him that, even though he's a nice guy, he can't come around anymore.

I guess my brother had a pretty bad night last night anyway, including his current girl acting like a drunk psycho. He thinks his friends are pissed at him and, after dude last night, he had a raging anxiety attack that I didn't know about till this morning. My brother is a recovering alcoholic and he does NOT need this kind of person in his life.

I guess Dude just called him and asked for a ride to the impound lot. At first my brother acquiesced but when dude asked for financial help, he cut him off again completely. I just told him that I did not want Dude around here anymore, around him anymore, and I don't want to hear about him hanging out with him anymore. I did add that my bro is an adult and he can make this decision for himself but I do not want Dude here. He is a socially nice guy but he's become the proverbial bad influence. Unfortunately, he's a screw up. Has been for a long time.

I feel bad for my brother. I know what he's going through. He wants to help Dude but he's realizing that there has to be limits. Boundaries are supremely important when you're helping someone. When helping someone starts affecting your life negatively, put the boundary in place and don't back down. It's for your own good. I've had to do this numerous times in my own life. I felt like a shitty human being every time for "abandoning" my friends but I have to stay healthy too. Physically, mentally, and spiritually. In the end, only Dude can help himself and expect change.