New Leaves

I counted my chickens before they hatched.

I was contacted by John the other night. He got my phone number from his caller ID. He wanted to offer me the chance to file the paperwork with misconduct claimed against him. I told him I didn't want to file any misconduct. I wanted a disolution a peaceable agreement between us.

He starts saying things about how I'm doing him wrong and committing adultery. He wants to know more information about the withertos and whyfores surrounding my decision to separate divorce and exactly where Mike and I started seeing each other. I explained to him very succinctly what my decision was based on. I reminded him of his behaviour at the toga party. Drunk off his ass in front of all my friends sucking face with his conquest for the evening. Discretion was the promise made to me, it was broken. I had to send someone else over to him to get him to take his behaviour elsewhere. To which he says, "I wish that you'd said something to me, I wish that you'd taken interest in me...."

So, It's my fault? That sentence implied that if I'd done something differently, then he wouldn't have done that. WTF ever.

So, I told him to say whatever he needed to say because this conversation would be the last that I would have with him. I seemed to get some minor points across, but I think reason is lost on him.

We had our number changed... So, I ended up with an email about "The Future" from John. He has changed his mind. He doesn't want the divorce. He wants me to come back to him. "even now" (interpretted means, 'even though i think you are cheating on me.') Notice how everything is about what HE wants. Well excuse me for not wanting to spend the next seventy years living paycheck to paycheck, and slowly killing myself while he gets nearly everything he wants.

So of course I am going to get screwed in this process. I am going to end up having to pay for a full fledged divorce while he drags his feet the whole way.

Just great. I'll write more later.