Being assertive is something that I have become better at. Still not second nature to me, and there is a bit of panic when I realize that I am faced with a situation that I will either have to bend someone over, or not complain while I do the bending.
I finally pulled SS#1 (Shift Supervisor #1) To the back room *with* another employee and told her that I didn't understand where her attitude was coming from. I told her that I wasn't looking to 'be best friends and go dancing on Saturday nights, but I am looking to make the job more friendly, so whatever her problem with me was, she needed to speak it, or stop being so obviously against my presence in the store, because I'm not going anywhere."
Turns out it was a misunderstanding that she got from overhearing a conversation between me and the general manager.... a phone conversation.... she felt that I was out to 'get ahead by stepping on her', she also stated that 'it is no good to be the best if it brings out the worst in you.'
I told her that I needed her to explain what she meant exactly by that because cryptic shots are what I am tired of.
I refrained from the obvious unhelpful rebuttles that lay in wait at the tip of my tongue. You know, " How can I step on a shift supervisor who doesn't have a car, nor the will to get ahead, to get to a higher place? Her back doesn't give me a better view than what I have now." But That of course, would not help things.
We had this talk 2 days ago, and I worked with her today, and it was a complete difference. Much better.... Let's hope it rubs off on SS#2.
My circadian rhthym was aided today by a soy mocha. So, I am up late tonight. Unfortunately, my beloved could not join me this evening. He had dental surgery this week and is in excruciating pain and unable to make the commute, and would not be much company if I were to make the commute. He called me and we talked until he needed to take more pain medicine and go lay down. I hate when I don't get to see him.
Crystal's baby shower was rescheduled after I bent over fucking backwards to get the day off. She really pisses me off sometimes. I think she has 2-3 weeks, but she's not due until July 28. I saw her about a week ago and made sure to make a lot of comments about her huge breasts. It's my duty as a sister. Besides she was wearing a tank top and she was spilling.
My nephew continues to be my little angel, here is a conversation he and Crystal had:
Crystal: Jammer, make mommy breakfast she wants bacon and eggs.
Jammer: no.
Crystal: Why not? You want to make mommy cry by not making her breakfast??
Jammer: CRY!!!
He's so devious. Makes me love him even more.
I get my stitches removed tomorrow, and can back to the gym.
I also rented a storage unit this weekend to aid in my move to Dayton. Oy.
I purchased an elliptical machine, and a chest freezer. (Both used) When I move to Dayton, I expect to do a lot of meal freezing, and also I will probably have to ditch my membership because commuting will take so much of my time.
We'll see how it goes.
Possibly, a new car is on the horizon. I was interested in the Vibe, but I am thinking seriously about the Chevy Aveo Hatchback. I love my hatchbacks.
Allright, I'm babbling, it's time for bed.
xx
Posted by hawkie at June 20, 2005 01:04 AM