My soon-to-be ex-husband sent me the paperwork to avoid a trial. Exactly what I wanted. Only, there was only 20 days to file them from the date on the paper, and it was dated 7/11. His affidavit is dated 7/22, and the postmark on the envelope (sent regular mail) is 7/25. I receive the papers when I get home from work one morning at 3 a.m. and say, I'll deal with this when I wake up, and can try to read legalese.
I did not have sufficient time to respond. I will have to rent a car, drive to Deleware, and be completely inconvenienced financially, and situationally, just because of this. So, I call and I try to tell him this sentence, "When you find out the date, please let me know. Don't mail it to me, call it to me, so that I may have as much notice as possible."
He says, "I don't know what you are trying to pull, THIS-is-what-I-am-going-to-do: I am going to get an extension on the trial, and get a lawyer to protect myself."
At this moment I am furious. Not only has he interrupted me, but he's also insulted me and threatened to break the agreement, THAT HE WANTED. Which was: No one in the courtroom with us. Just him, the judge, and I.
So, I'm supposed to come down to Deleware... hundreds of miles away... with no one. While his support group is all right there. What would I do if he brings everyone in the courthouse.
Especially since I have found out that no one else wants to talk to me. Just his sister Jenny. And I know if they knew the whole story, they would think differently. But, no, these people, who were my family, would rather look at their poor wounded son, than to think that there was anything wrong with what he did.
He put on the papers that our date of separation was Sept 9. It was Sept 2nd. He says that Mike threatened him. Which is completely fictitional. Mike never threatened him. He has everyone (except Jenny) Thinking that I left him for another man. I did not leave him for another man. We only lived together as roomates last summer. From Memorial Day, to Labor Day, it was solely to finish out the lease. I was moving my stuff to Columbus, every weekend in between, the bathroom door was locked, there was no sex, and there was not so much as a glimpse of me naked. I never let him think that there was a chance.
Yet, he puts Sept 9th as the separation date.
And he has everyone thinking that I am what HE was.
I find it incredulous, that he hasn't dated or done anything else since we separated because he's waiting for this divorce decree to go through. I mean really... What is he going to do when the divorce is final? Go BACK to the way that he was when he was married?
Then he told me that it would be "ill-advised" for me to bring my boyfriend. I asked him if he was going to do something that the Bible reccomended that he do since he was so religious now. Basically, he was threatening Mike.
It is almost over with. *Almost*
In more pleasant matters, I've learned to drink a vitamin /juice drink that looks like swamp water. As long as I don't look at it, It's not all bad.