Just when I thought that I had this 'mommy sh**' figured out, I find that, I am thought to be a 'mean mommy'. No, the kids aren't calling me mom, it's my phrasing, but the adjective is in use by the 8 year old. I wish I could say I was feeling maternal and wishing to make him feel like I'm not a meanie.
I'm not a meanie. I just don't put up with BS. Period. I've been more lax than I care to be upon request to 'take it easy' at first. But seriously...
chew with your mouth shut
don't whine
listen
video games can't be the center of your life
Seriously, they are great kids. Very sweet natured. But I don't put up with BS and I'm not going to be 'too easy' right now because I think that the impression will be "She was nice at first, but then she changed." I want to be consistant.
I take it easier on him than I do my 5 year old nephew.
I am having a bit of disconnecting feelings regarding everything. I just feel detatched from everything and everyone.
Still don't know about this job. Supposed to know in a few days.
Working over time this week. In a bit of a money snafu with Mike's stupid job. They have a plant wide lay off for a few weeks out of the year in which they can collect unemployment. Well that process is bungled up and were out 1400 bucks until his benefits rep takes a hold of it.
Aunt Flo is here too.
Beam me the f*** up Scottie.
Damn, I'm sorry hon. Maybe you and I should have another talk about the mommy thing.
Call me.
Love you.
Posted by Kim at January 30, 2006 03:43 PMHe's not going to be affected by those nasty plant lay off's is he? I hate the frickin car industry right now!
All I have are internet hugs, but call if you need anything!
love,
Susie
When mommies are 'nice', their children end up becoming those horrible teenagers I see on tv who have to be sent away to military camp for being too out of control.
Avoid the melodramatic pull of reality tv.
x
Posted by Poe at January 31, 2006 08:03 AMI have a great relationship with both my daughters but there have been many times when I've been labeled 'mean' when I was only being a good parent.
Consistency is very important and kids are smart - they learn boundaries quickly. Kids will always push boundaries but that's part of growing up. Standing firm gives them a solid line which they can choose to cross or not. (Oh, and don't fool yourself -no matter what you do sometimes they'll cross it, lol)
I'm afraid you'll find even after years of consistency you'll still be labeled 'mean' on occasion - and if they know that label gets to you it will be more often.
I will say, tho, that at times, when things are overwhelming, you have to pick your battles...so that everything doesn't become a battle.
Good luck!
Posted by Sassenach at January 31, 2006 12:12 PM