I tried to be nice. I wanted to have a relationship with these girls
but I am not having them walk on me, use me, disrespect me, or
ignore me.
I've been as patient as I can be with people eating all the diced
vegetables for snacks when I spent my time dicing those vegetables
for the salads that they wanted with every dinner.
I've been as patient as I can with lids not being tightened on and
I grab something and then I get it all over me, or it falls on the floor.
I've been as patient as I can with them refusing to clean their room.
We don't ask them to do any chores, just wash their own clothes.
I've been as patient as I can with people putting their hands in the
cereal boxes and eating directly out of the cereal boxes, and if any
drops on the floor, they don't sweep it up. Also, someone ate all
of the dried strawberries out of the special K and left the flakes.
I've been as patient as I possibly can be with having bought 70 bucks
worth of honey in six months because one of them likes to eat it
by the spoon full.
I've been as patient as I can with asking them to let me know where
they are/ where they are going. For them to be pissy with me about
having to be home by dark if they are walking outside. We've had
several rapes less than 2 miles down the street from us, and to my
knowledge the guy hasn't been caught.
I've been as nice as I possibly can be when someone drank 90% of
the Irish creamer for Michael's coffee in 24 hours... this has happened
twice. The third time they drank a pint of half and half.
I've been as nice as I can with them finally cleaning the trash out of
their room and bringing two bags downstairs and just setting it in the
kitchen without separating the recycling.
I've been as nice as I can to try and bring these things up to them in
a nice and fun way. All I get is these looks like I'm insane. I'm
obviously not making this up. I don't drink 3/4 of the soy-milk and
then leave the cap cockeyed so that I can pull it out and shake it
and get it all over me.
I've been as nice as I possibly can be with people grabbing cheese and
not closing the fucking bag.
I've been as nice as I possibly can with eating out of the fridge without
getting a plate. Literally stand in front of the fridge, open a container,
fish something out, then barely close the container and then close the door.
My fridge has been acting like it's going to quit because it's running too long.
So, I go up to their rooms about two weeks ago and say something to
them to try and find out who's doing this and why? Again, I'm insane.
So, for two weeks, they've been boycotting dinner. 'They've pretended that
they won't eat our food. No, someone is waiting until we go to bed and eating. Or they are buying their dinner at the co op. They've been boycotting
our presence and they've been using one word answers, or lying and saying that they've got homework to do when they laugh loudly for three hours as they type away on the free wi-fi that we are supplying.
I decided that I would head them off at the pass today and tell them that dinner is at five... so they know that they have to have dinner with us tonight. They were pretty huffy as they left.
It's now 3:20.. They get out of school at 2:30, if they take the bus home, they arrive home at 3:00... I've received no phone call to alert me to where they are going, that they are doing something. I never say that they can't do anything. I just say let us know. LEGALLY, we are supposed to know where they are at all times.
At first I was hurt because I'm perceived as a bitch by them, but hey now I can roll with it. I think I'm going to take them to school and pick them up in my beat up old mom voyager van for the rest of this week.
If they really want to take me on, I'll call the liaison and ask her to intervene before I get rid of one or both of them, and then they'll be split up and heart broken.
Patient yes, pathetic, no.